๐ŸŒ Day 90: where to from here?๐ŸŒ 

Today, the impossible became possible. With a 20 year drinking career under my belt, 90 days ago I would have told you that going 90 days without booze is impossible. My mindset was aligned to our Kiwi drinking culture mentality: that we need alcohol to have fun, to celebrate, to relax, to reward, to do anything. People who don’t drink are weird.

But today, I did it! I’ve been internally dancing everywhere like Carlton dancing to Tom Jones! ๐Ÿ•บ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ•บ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿฝ 

Where to from here?

I guess there are two options.

Option one: go back to drinking. This option I believe, is fraught with risks. Podcasts like the Recovery Elevator and books like This Naked Mind suggest but in a much more eloquent way, ‘once a pisshead, always a pisshead’. Evidently, whether we stop drinking for 3 months, 3 years, or in one gentlemans case, 30 years, we will not get ‘cured’. Our brains won’t become rewired to be that of a ‘normal drinker’. In fact, my research stated that irrespective of the time lapse, the brain will take you right back to where you left off, possibly taking you to a worse place than where you left off. 

A scary thought.

Many try and overcome this, thinking they are different. Thinking that they can ‘handle it’ this time around. But am I prepared to gamble with this possibility? Nope. Which leads me to Option two. 

Option two: start 90 days all over again. I think this is the way to go. It’s too daunting to call this Option Two: Never Drink Alcohol Again. That’s just too big. 
To summarise, I’m at a crossroads but the right path stands out much more so than the other. Looking back, I cannot think of anything good that comes from alcohol. The only things that have happened over the last 90 days have been incredible. More of that, please! Plus, my sober Vegas Challenge is comming up in six weeks… stay tuned.

As always thank you for reading, all the best with your journey. The picture below was taken my walk to work this morning. โœจโœจโœจ

13 thoughts on “๐ŸŒ Day 90: where to from here?๐ŸŒ 

  1. OPTION 2!!
    Of course I say that because I have now been sober for over 2 and half years, and although there have been some tight times, I LOVE it.
    I do more, have more peace of mind, have more friends, go out just as much, love my nature hikes here in Minneapolis, and so much more.

    In my limited experience, when I tried to ge sober, and stayed sober for 6 months, but then drank again, it did get worse.
    Ugh. Don’t want to go back to that!
    I think you will have a lot of fun in Vegas, as there is a lot to do, and you don’t need to drink to do it!
    xo
    Wendy

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    • Happy Sunday Untipsyteacher (great name btw!),
      Your words resonate so much! You mention how you went back to drinking for a bit and that it wasn’t bringing out the best in you. This seems to be a common theme from what I’ve read – to draw on your experience is so powerful.
      Thanks again, I look forward to staying in touch and reading your blog โœจ

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  2. There is actually a sober in Vegas blog person around! Lotsa ideas for what to do in Vegas – food, shows, hiking, and more!

    I love the line, “what do I do when i stop drinking?… Everything else.”

    That’s why its one day at a time, because forever wow thats a lot of pressure.

    -Z

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    • Thanks so much for your wise words and encouragement. I just found the Sober in Vegas blog – thanks so much!! It’s going to be a blast. The irony is, some people have said ‘oh you’re going to be sooooo brining in Vegas’. But isn’t sitting in pubs or wherever in Vegas, getting plastered and missing the sights, sounds and buzz more boring? Each to their own – but I know I’m going to have an awesome time! Stay tuned, stay well, sober hugs from New Zealand โœจโœจโœจ

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  3. Congratulations on 90 days, that’s brilliant! I think option 2 sounds like a good option. My longest was 109 days, partly because my focus somehow fell apart after 100. Your walk to work looks beautiful, I love the sea! There’s a blog called sober in Vegas (soberinvegas.wordpress.com) that you may already have heard of, it’s packed full of sober stuff to do there which sounds like it may be appropriate. Best wishes ๐Ÿ™‚

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    • Hello,
      Thank you for your lovely message. 109 days is a wonderful accomplishment, well done! What day is it for you today?
      Thank you for the heads up about the Sober in Vegas blog, I had no idea! I can’t wait to check it out. I also look forward to yours.
      Thanks for swinging by, I’d love to stay in touch.
      Sober love and hugs from New Zealand ๐ŸŒธ

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  4. Congratulations!!! Personally, I think long term you would be better off with option 2.

    > I cannot think of anything good that comes from alcohol.

    Because I work in the heart of a big city, the everyday lunch walk was always a challenge. In the beginning I when I was tempted, I asked myself something similar to your line. “Can anything good come from this?” The answer was always no, and so I just walked on by.

    Just remember that you can internally dance on day 91 too. And day 92, 93, …

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    • Hi Suburban Seeds,
      Thanks for your lovely words! I love your question to yourself ‘Can anything good come of this?’. Something to try next time I’m walking past the central city garden bars on my home from work!
      Thanks again for your encouragement and I look forward to reading your future posts.โœจโœจโœจ

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      • ๐Ÿ™‚ I don’t really write anything related on my blog, but am always happy to stop by and help others celebrate and make them feel better about themselves. It’s a long and hard journey, so I find every little bit helps.

        Make it a great day!

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