Sunday night and we just got home from a weekend away with friends. Lots of fun, laughs and yes, LOTS of alcohol.
Friday: the drinking kicks off
From before we arrived on Friday night, it had already begun. Friends who beat us to the hotel were already ‘on it’. And fair enough – drinking is their thing, drinking is what they do. Just because I’m not drinking doesn’t mean they should not drink. And to be honest, I wasn’t compelled to join in the drinking. I was fine with no wine – I was comfortable having conversations with sparkling water instead. So far so good. Had an early night while others stayed up drinking… night #1 = successful. ✔️
Saturday: the drinking continues
People drunk on Saturday during lunch in the hot sun. People drunk in the afternoon. People drunk at the pre-dinner drinks. Then at the formal dinner and band all night, until midnight.
Before I started this sober journey, I would have been right amongst it, wine with lunch, wine in the afternoon and wine through the evening. BUT NOT ANYMORE!!!!! I left at 11pm while others stayed up drinking… night #2 = successful. ✔️
Sunday: the drinking aftermath
As you can see, I didn’t drink a drop all weekend. To be honest, I didn’t want to. The thought of what drinking would have done put me off totally. If I drunk at any point during the weekend, I would have:
- woke up hungover and full of self loathing
- ruined my sober stretch (it’s day 113 today!)
- spent heaps of money on overpriced drinks
- probably made an obnoxious fool of myself
- upset or offended friends and my BF, all of whom I love dearly because my filter came off
- felt annoyed, upset and disappointed.
Its now Sunday 8:30pm NZST, we are home safe and sober. And I’m absolutely buzzing right now!!! 💃🏽
Note that this journey hasn’t all been a bed of roses. I found this sort of weekend incredibly difficult during my first few months. But it seems to be getting easier the more times I experience events like this one. My sober experience is growing!
The more frequently these social events crop up, the more confident and comfortable I seem to becoming around drinkers. Sure, people ask the same stupid shit like ‘You’re still not drinking yet?’ or ‘It must be so hard not drinking?’. I feel like saying ‘It must be so hard drinking?’ But instead, I smile and say something like ‘Still not drinking and still really happy’. And I say it because I mean it.
Life is good. But isn’t life as a sober person is great?!!! Keep up the great work. We can do this. 🏞 xoxo