On the way to work this morning, it dawned on me why these two terms, recovery and alcoholic, have been bugging me. So I’d thought I’d briefly share with you why I’ve said goodbye to these terms. In doing so, I’d love to get your perspectives – I appreciate that everyone has their own approach to being alcohol free and will have different views. But here are mine.
Why I am not in recovery
My mind, rightly or wrongly, has always associated the word recovery with negative connotations. I associate recovery with comming out of an illness, or, for example, getting physiotherapy to heal broken bones or recovering from whiplash after a car accident… a temporary period to get back to a physical state of where you were before.
I don’t associate my new life of being alcoholfree with the word recovery or being in recovery. I’m not sick, I’m not going through a hard time. I am not down and out, I’m not sad, struggling, or in a difficult place. Rather, the opposite! Being alcohol free is the best decision I’ve ever made. I’m happier, healthier, more present and generally an all round better version of myself.
For these reasons, I am not in recovery.
I dislike this word with a passion. People often consider others to be an alcoholic… or are not. Much like pregnancy. There is no middle ground. However I don’t subscribe to this. Like the word recovery, alcoholic to me is a hideous word. For me, it has negative connotations like the word recovery. Let’s be realistic though – I admit that when I was drinking, I displayed elements or stupid drunken traits of an ‘alcoholic’. While I was drunk.
But I don’t drink now. So how can I be an alcoholic if I don’t drink? Like an ex-smoker … we don’t refer to an ex-smoker as a smoker, so why would we refer to someone who doesn’t drink alcohol anymore as an alcoholic?
Makes no sense to me.
For these reasons, I am NOT an alcoholic.
Words I do associate being alcoholfree with:
- Clarity of mind
- BEING ALIVE
- …any many more!
My life as an alcohol free person brings me joy, happiness and fun. I won’t be bogged down by these two words that I associate with self-pity, doom and darkness.
Let’s celebrate our sobriety! We are better versions of ourselves today than we were as drinkers! We are so blessed to be living this way and I’m excited by the opportunities that come with it.
Love and sober hugs,