Before I gave up drinking on 01/01/17, Friday night was drink night. I looked forward to this old ‘tradition’. I looked forward to the buzz. Or so I thought!!! Now I’ve replaced it with outdoor yoga…
Options for Friday used to include catching up with work mates after work at the pub ‘for a drink’, friends who live locally ‘for a drink’ or at home for ‘a few quiets’.
In retrospect, it was SO pathetic how everyone (myself included 🤦🏽♀️) understated these occasions. WHY did we always say ‘a drink’ or ‘a couple of quiets’?!?! We always downplayed it. I think I did it to sound like I was in control of my drinking. I think I wanted to sound civilised, social and in control.
Boy how wrong I was!
Instead of these invitations, I could have said: ‘Let’s catch up,
- drink a bottle of wine each or maybe more,
- eat fatty pub snacks,
- say or do something stupid,
- offend or hurt someone I care about,
- spend about $100 or more on effectively nothing including an overpriced taxi that smells like toilet spray,
- feel like shit all day Saturday, and
- have a nonproductive weekend’.
Sound like an enticing and fun evening? No. But that was typically how Fridays used to play out for me. It was seldom the one or two drinks that we initially framed the evening as being.
What’s worse is that I wasn’t doing this alone. We all went past the one to two drink point together! And it was totally acceptable. Many friends (and many who I continue to hang out with and love dearly) still do this. And that’s OK – it’s their business, it’s their life. They can do what they want and drink how they want. I just know that I’m not that person anymore.
These days, I cook a yum dinner or we’ll have a kicked back evening. Sometimes I’ll do a Friday night hot yin yoga class – the ideal way to close out the working week.
And sometimes, if the weather is good, there are outdoor yoga classes in the weekend. Here are some photos from one of our recent classes. It’s a total thrill. A million times better than lying in bed, feeling pathetic with a pounding hangover.
I love my new life. And I trust you are loving your new life too. It’s a blessing that I wouldn’t change for the world.
Have a wonderful weekend my friends. And thank you for reading. xoxo