I don’t want to drink anymore.

As we say goodbye to winter and hello to spring, the longer days and warmer temps are a long-overdue treat. And I’m now at the point where I don’t want to drink anymore.

As you may have seen in previous posts, Wellington (that’s capital city of New Zealand) has had a long, dark, wet and windy winter. During this time, temps of zero overnight to a measly 6-10*C during the day is being generous. It is not uncommon to get rain 3-4 days a week. Referring simply to wind here in Wellington is an understatement – 100kph southerly icy blasts from the Antarctic is something we Wellingtonians get used to. En route to and from work, our wild weather plays havoc with hair, makeup and clothes if you aren’t dressed for it. And you can forget umbrellas – they won’t help in horizontal, sheeting rain!

Thankfully the wild weather is subsiding and our days are getting slightly longer and a smidgen warmer. This will be my first sober summer. And I’m so excited… the possibilities are endless!

These days, I don’t want to drink anymore. I look back and see how deluded I was. Like the majority of our society, I was sucked in to the multi-million dollar alcohol industry’s sales stories and all the stuff my equally sucked in friends told me. That alcohol helps with stress, alcohol makes you fun…. blah blah blah you know how the story goes.

And then one day ( 1st January 2017), I woke up. I just decided I didn’t want to drink anymore. Alcohol served no purpose and no longer has a place in my life, my home, my happiness.

These days, when people ask me ‘Why don’t you drink?‘ I feel like asking them ‘Why do you drink?’            ~ NOWineImFINE 

 These days, I see what a crock the alcohol game is. Life actually is fun without alcohol. I’d go so far as to say that I cope with stress better, have more authentic relationships and have discovered a raft of incredible interests that make me feel alive. 

These days, I laugh when people say ‘People who don’t drink are boring’. I think people who DON’T drink have MORE FUN thank drinkers. Unless of course your definition of fun = getting obnoxiously drunk then remorseful and sick the following morning. This is now my definition of boring. ~ NOWineImFINE

True story!

These days, my days are so fulfilling. There’s not a minute for boredom, not at all.

Anyway my friends, I hope you are all doing really well and are enjoying your weekend.

Take care, have fun out there. xoxo

35 thoughts on “I don’t want to drink anymore.

  1. It amazes me how many people think that giving up drinking would make them boring! I used to be one of them, but having spoken to some of them when they are drunk I want to say ‘you know what IS boring? Hearing you tell me the same story 3 times in 5 minutes cos you can’t remember you’ve told me!’ Sobriety is freedom, how can THAT be boring?

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    • Ha! That’s so true!!! I love your observations.
      Like you, I’m embarrassed to admit that I was once one of those people. I was stuck in a tiny little sheltered world where I didn’t realise there’s so much more to life. Now we are free. Now we are living. Now we are possibly the least boring versions of ourselves – and that’s something to celebrate!
      Big hugs xoxo

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  2. I totally get the weather thing, the UK winters are long and the days short and cold, so if you can get through a NZ winter sober I would say without a doubt you can get through anything! well done and enjoy your summer, ours is coming to an end, I shall miss it until next year! xx

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  3. Such an inspirational post! I can literally feel the good vibes emanating from it! I’m starting to experience the same feeling of just not wanting to drink anymore too whew!! Someone was drinking a glass of red wine near me recently and it smelled like dirty socks hahaha! A pivotal moment for me, or a “shift” as you say! Have a fabulous AF summer down there! πŸ˜ƒπŸ™ŒπŸ»

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    • didn’t mean to hit send- anyhoozle, she’s been miserable this winter in the cold while I have been dying of the heat. She’s down on the South Island all the way at the bottom. I had big plans to head to the South Pacific this September and stopping off to see her in NZ but now I don’t know. I think I want to get some sobriety time and replenish my funds. I was there, here, in January and envy your resolve to do it. And I am definitely glad to hear that things shift. I believe you. And thanks for this…

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      • Good Sunday morning my friend, how wonderful you met a fellow Kiwi! Did you find our accent weird hehe. Your September trip sounds wonderful but I respect that you’re in two minds about going. Some sober time and rebuilding the bank account also has its merits.
        The shift has been the slap in the face/wake up call I desperately needed. I’m not staying im 100% immune from alcohol but without it, I don’t think I could have lasted this long. Actually, you have just inspired me to write a post about that… what has triggered this shift in me. Hadn’t considered it before now so thank you for the inspiration!
        All the best for the comming months, whether you head to New Zealand or kick back and enjoy some sober time, I know you’ll do what’s right for you. xoxo

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      • Aww. Good, can’t wait to read it. As for the accent, I think I am one of those rare Americans that can tell the difference between a Kiwi and Aussie accent – I lived in Tonga for a few years and spent some time in Australia. I have only briefly been to New Zealand though…

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      • Oh how exciting – I think you are right! When we went to the States in May, only a small portion of the Americans we met correctly detected our accent. You have done some wonderful travelling. Would love to do more but most countries are so expensive to get to from way down here in little New Zealand. Anyway, I hope you had a nice weekend. Thank you for your positive, upbeat messages xoxo

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    • Glad you like! Feel free to share the NOWineImFINE love. Small favour, be great if you’re able to reference it with a little dash and NoWineImFine after you’ve cited it, I’d be very thankful. Enjoy 😊

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  4. I know many people who bemoaned about how boring sobriety was, and I remember reading something about when we are bored it’s because we’re boring…lol. Cheeky, of course. But I have also heard boredom is fear in another guise. Afraid to try things. Not wanting to get out of our comfort zone. In the end, what people mean when they say they are bored is that they no longer are creating the DRAMA that they did when drinking. And that is what we do when active in our alcoholism. Some people is sobriety then find ways to stir shit up in other ways. Or go looking to “save” people so that they have something to “do” when really they are avoiding looking at themselves.
    I rarely have down time in my life. I am go go go all the time. And that is something I couldn’t say I was like in my drinking days. I am grateful to be busy and to have a lot going on! Great post!

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    • Hi Paul, thanks so much for popping by (your wise words always inspire and interest me greatly!).
      Oh I love this ‘bored because we are boring’ – brilliant!
      I agree, people revert to drinking as it’s safe, simple and a mask. Or at least it was for me. It didn’t require oneself to go out on a limb, experiment or be authentic. But gosh, isn’t the latter far more rewarding!
      So glad you’re doing so well. You’re one of the very first bloggers I came across when I gave up drinking and your clear, concise perspectives have been very helpful.
      Happy Sunday 😊

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  5. Yes to all! I am happy for you! πŸ™‚ I found that actually seeing alcohol and the society for what it is as you do, really helped me to quit drinking.
    Jason Vale states in his book (Quitting the drink, easily) that alcohol is the only harddrugs of which people ask you ‘why did you quit?’ when you do. I found this an revelation! πŸ™‚ Isn’t it TOTALLY absurd?! Points out exactly how wide spread the ‘alcohol is fun’ idea is.
    xx, Feeling

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    • Absurd is such an accurate description! Ah that’s right, I remember reading that in Jason’s book. So true… so bizarre!
      And thank you for your kindness and support, isn’t it cool how we are all in this together. Truely motivating!β€οΈπŸ”†πŸŒ΄

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  6. This resonates with me exactly! It is strange to suddenly have so many things I want to do that I don’t have enough time in the day. I used to barely get out of bed, and only did so so that I could get to my coffee. Like you, Annie Grace’s book made me wonder what the f*ck I was doing this for.
    I looked up Wellington to see where you are, and immediately the windy cold wet weather descriptions popped up. That would be so difficult for me! I’m glad you are heading into Spring. I just saw the first red leaves down by our dock, so we are headed into Fall here in North Carolina. Soon I will be the one in blinding freezing rain. I think I’ll hop on over to NZ and enjoy your summer instead. ; )

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  7. It sounds like you’ve come to have a great perspective on the whole drinking thing and I’m so happy that your life is so full and rich as a result. I bet that reading this will be really helpful and inspiring for people in the earlier stages too, congratulations πŸ™‚ xx

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