Alcoholfree living: the power of the rental car.

This weekend I discovered a new tool that helped me bat away numerous, awkward ‘Why aren’t you drinking?’ questions. 

We had a large family reunion with loads of drinking involved. My secret weapon? A rental car! I had to take a short flight then rental to get there. So, when the endless stream of questions came my way about drinking, rather than launch into stories about why I’ve given up, we simply make jokes about it. ‘Wouldn’t be good to get pulled over drunk in a rental’ or ‘ The insurance on the rental is horrific, it wouldn’t be good to drink then drive’ etc.
Many people at the event didn’t know I haven’t drunk for nine months. And given I was a boozer, I understand why there were so many questions. But rather than getting myself worked up about the interrogations like I used to, I was able to confidently brush them off.

The rental proved a great scape goat!!!! 

Disaster averted and my dignity and alcoholfree journey remains in tact. xoxo 

PS below are some pics from my early morning beach walk the morning after. No hangover! Just peace, solitude and the beach.

30 thoughts on “Alcoholfree living: the power of the rental car.

  1. Great pictures! Yeah, I don’t have too many people ask me why I don’t drink, but I tell them that I have retired, or I tell them that I have used up all my drink tickets for this life time. If someone really pushes, I tell them the truth. It doesn’t bother me. I am becoming more open about it, but it has taken me time to get to this place.

    Thanks for sharing the pics!

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    • I wish I didn’t have people asking me why I don’t drink. But I get it all the time.
      I wish it didn’t bother me when they ask. But it bothers me a LOT.
      May be one day I’ll get to where you are, that’d be amazing.

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  2. I’m always uncomfortable driving rental cars with all their insurance liabilities, terms and conditions blah etc… I’m so glad you had a good trip, your photos are lovely πŸ™‚ There’s just no competition between a beautiful early morning walk or an ugly, painful hiding in bed with a hangover x

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  3. I completely understand this! It took me a long, long, long time to share with others that I wasn’t drinking, ever again. There is such a social bias against it! Which is crazy. As I’m making my way through writing my memoir, I realized that I was more embarrassed to say “no wine I’m fine” (side note, I totally want to use this in real life! Love your blog name.) than saying, “oh man, give me 10 more beers!” Stay strong my friend. I’m SO glad that you’re blogging about your journey! I really wish I had started sharing much sooner. It wasn’t until about a year and a half into sobriety that I put myself out there publicly. A lot of my friends didn’t know I had been arrested (DUI YEARS before I actually stopped drinking) or that I struggled with drinking. I hope you can get to a place where you don’t need a scapegoat, but I’m SO glad that you had one! And again, thank you SO much for sharing your journey. It has helped me. ❀

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    • Hi my friend, thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. Isn’t it awesome how we are so similar in our outlook… yet it’s so UNAWESOME how hard it is in modern society to quit!
      I’m so excited about your memoir. Is this something you’ll look to share with us? How cool!
      It sucks that we had to be so secret squirrel about quitting drinking. But at least we all have each other here to help each other nail this.
      Love your work! Thanks again for popping by πŸ˜˜πŸŒ·πŸ¦‹πŸŒ΄

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      • Totally! And yes, I will be sharing it once it’s ready! I have no idea when that will be, I’m not putting restrictive deadlines on it. I’m more concerned about a good final product, no matter how long it takes. I really like where it is now….but I’ve been putting off writing about actual experiences. I want to more than a “threw up on my friend’s porch,” “got drunk at my friend’s rehearsal dinner, and was hung over all day of the wedding,” “I drank cooking wine.” But the framework is there, and some parts are really great.

        You’re right, it’s SO great having other sober folks to talk with! I need to find more here…

        Love YOUR work! Keep on friend, keep on!

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    • Hi lovely, thanks so much for your kindness and support. Always so nice to receive your messages.
      You know what? You’re right! Dammit I’m just going to say it, yes, I’m proud of myself! I’ve been a lifelong boozer. The only way for me was downhill on a train with no brakes. So glad I jumped of that one early. Phew! Really dodged a bullet.
      Hope you are well. Big hugs xoxo

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      • My journey is different and so are my addictions, but there came a point where I realised that I was proud of myself for so many things. I’m happy to pay others compliments if I’m genuinely impressed by them, but I didn’t afford myself the same. My true recovery started when I began complimenting myself. I think it’s a difficult thing to do when you’ve spent your whole life apologising for everything. I think I might blog about this very thing myself, if you don’t mind? Would it be okay if I mentioned you too? Xx I am honestly so impressed by your tenacity, your strength. It’s an awesome thing. Glad we’re friends. X

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  4. Wow, those pictures are beautiful! Isn’t it awesome to be able to enjoy early mornings on the beach – so tranquil and lovely.
    I hate being put on the spot about not drinking. I hate people’s reaction to it – like I need to justify and explain why I’m not drinking. These days I just smile and wink and say “I’m a retired blackout artist!” and leave it at that, walking away from the person if I need to.

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    • Hi lovely, ooooooooh that’s a very clever response! Well played! Gosh I bet that leaves people dead in their tracks!
      I’m with you. It sucks that we have to justify that we realise alcohol isn’t fun or cool like the media sell it to us.
      Carry on being awesome. Next time you use that line, I’d love to hear what the reaction is! Love it! 😘

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    • Hi Wendy, oh isn’t it fab! I think the fact that it was a rental with strict insurance requirements helped make the DD justification even more solid. Sad that we have to justify but I agree with you, we need to encourage rather than discourage it.
      Hugs 😘

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  5. I use this: I’m allergic, it turns out. Doctors discovered my liver can process liquor correctly. I can drink, if I want, but I’ll die of cirrhosis before long.

    Works like a charm and nobody will EVER look cross at you.

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