Rather than waking up with a typical New Year’s Day hangover, I am waking up fresh and fit. Today I’m celebrating one year off the booze at a week-long yoga retreat in Bali.
I remember 2017 New Year’s Day vividly – a pounding headache and an argument with my partner. That’s when I said I’M DONE.
Between then and now, I have documented my journey with the aim of paying it forward. I want to do this because so many people have taken time to help me be successful – their kindness has been inspiring and infectious! Therefore, I figured the very least I can do is document learnings for others here in the blogosphere.
On reflection, giving up alcohol was tough at times. But on balance, was the best life choice I have ever made and one I don’t regret for a second. Some key lessons it taught me (I’ll add to this list if I think of others, you might have some too):
- Mind over matter. On reflection, my ability to beat this thing was simply a matter of resetting my perspectives. I drew much inspiration and got a massive reality check from This Naked Mind by Annie Grace. So, if you haven’t already, I highly recommend ordering it. This is THE only book I can sincerely recommend if you are considering quitting drinking. I read a few others but they were nothing in comparison to Annie’s book. You can read about how this book helped me here.
- True friends and fake friends. I wrote a blog called Finding my Tribe which you can read about here. I learned who my true friends are – they respected my decision and supported me this year. I learned who my fake friends are – they tried to railroad my journey. The fake friends were typically the big drinkers who clearly have issues with their own drinking and didn’t like me ‘leaving them’. These people are now at arms length in my life. More friends have entered my life this year who are inspiring, healthy and kind and I am inspired to emulate their healthy and wise outlooks in life.
- Society wants you to conform to its bullshit. These days, I don’t want to go to a party/farewell/work drinks/etc, I don’t. I don’t let people make me feel guilty for not going, not staying until the end or not drinking. I used to conform because I was weak, I was a people pleaser with low self confidence and wanted to feel liked. Now I know what my mind and body needs to be nourished and I am no longer afraid to say no to what doesn’t serve me.
A truckload of other things I learned along the way are documented in this post so rather than regurgitate the same material, I’ll share this link instead.
Anyway my friends, I must away now for a quick coffee before our New Year’s Day 8am yoga class. Before I sign off, please know that I couldn’t have done this without you. Reading about your journeys and getting inspired by your accomplishments has a been huge part of getting to this point.
Thank you for being you. Thank you for being part of my journey. Blessings and nourishment to you and your family in 2018 xoxo
PS this photo was our yoga retreat lunch yesterday. The champagne flutes contain a Dragon Blood kombutcha – how cute!