2018: an update and long overdue apology.

It’s 7am Saturday morning as I write to you from Whangamata, New Zealand with a coffee in hand. It’s a delicious 21*C which is pretty warm for us Kiwis. We said goodbye to summer and hello to autumn on 1 March (two days ago) – the opposite seasons to our friends in the northern hemisphere.

This post is long overdue, I’ve been so slack. As we reflect back across 2017, I was an active member of this wonderful sober blogosphere. We shared stories of our struggles, our triumphs and our alcoholfree journeys. Wasn’t it a blast! Your insights and encouragement was more profound that I expected from a social media platform. You rock! β€οΈπŸ˜˜πŸ”†

Some of you noticed my absence and kindly asked if everything was okay. Let’s be honest, you thought I’d gone back to the booze – a fair assumption to make given our regular interactions last year. I’m pleased to confirm that this definitely wasn’t the case. I guess I just… found life and started playing outdoors. So I apologize for any angst or worry I may have accidentally caused. This was not my intention – I am sorry.

2018 has kicked off in leaps and bounds.

  • Firstly, I welcomed the year in at an 8-day New Year yoga retreat in Bali, Indonesia. This was my one year soberversary gift to self, you can read about it here. I’m now booked into my next yoga retreat and can’t wait! This might sound over the top and like an unnecessary luxury. And you might be right. But when we reflect back on how much money we wasted on booze, the cost of a week away is MORE THAN COVERED by the money I would have been spending on alcohol. Believe me, my little Nomo sobriety tracker tells me how much I haven’t spent on booze since I quit on 01 Jan 2017… it’s horrifying.
  • Secondly, I got into gardening. I am learning about the therapeutic power of nature and being outdoors – this cannot be underestimated. Rather than boozing my weekends away, I have transformed our unprivate, uninviting front yard into a private outdoor yoga abyss. Well, almost! It’s amazing what 1.8m high fences can do for one’s sense of calm and some friendly plants. I’m still learning how to get the lawn to be more like a bowling green but in the meantime, I regularly practice yoga in my garden oasis now. It makes me very happy.
  • Thirdly, I regularly spend quality time with friends and family. Not the toxic ones, they are now arms length in my life now. I’m still learning about setting boundaries with those ones and trying to let their dramas not affect me. On a happier note, coffee dates, brunch dates, two hour walking dates are where is at for me now … it’s all happening!

How’s your year going? What’s working well and what could we do to support you along the way? Would love to hear from you. It seems 2018 is fast becoming a very positive and rewarding year for many.

In sum, the year is going well. Sure, there are the trying times – I have no delusions about this. We can’t control other people’s behavior or situations but we CAN control how we chose to respond. We can choose to be happy or choose to be like the little girl under the umbrella, walking around with a storm could over her head and every one else is in the sunshine. I pick the former.

Today is day 426 without alcohol. Every day is a gift to respect and not take for granted. Giving up drinking was by far THE BEST LIFE CHOICE I have ever made. So if you’re considering quitting drinking, just do it. We are here to support and offer a hand if you want it. I say go for gold. You’re worth it. xxx

Ps I took the following photos on my Thursday morning walk. It’s so nice to be out and about early, before the traffic starts. This is Lyall Bay, in Wellington, New Zealand. πŸŒΏπŸ¦‹πŸŒΈπŸ”†

21 thoughts on “2018: an update and long overdue apology.

  1. I did miss your blogs! but you took your life back and that’s the important thing! I also LOVE my garden, it’s my passion, we have just had 2 weeks of horrendous snow and cold weather, everything looks such a mess, can’t wait for the spring to come and I can be outside again at every opportunity! I too have found peace and serenity in gardening, growing beautiful flowers and keeping a lovely stripe in my green lawns! so therapeutic and good exercise too! Enjoy! xx

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    • Hi Lilly, thanks so much for getting in touch – I love that you love gardening too! It would be great to see a pic of your garden one day it would amazing. Although what happens with the snow? Mush look amazing but gosh your plants must be so hardy!
      Hope you are well, stay warm and thanks again for popping by πŸŒΈπŸŒΏπŸ”†πŸŒΊ


    • Nawww thank you my sweet friend. You have played an important role in all of this, I’ll have you know! Your motivation and support since the get go hasn’t gone unnoticed. ❀️❀️❀️


  2. Your photos are gorgeous!! I’ve always wanted to know what going to a yoga retreat would be like, and I definitely want to give this a try one day…hopefully sooner, rather than later.

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    • Hi Anne, oh I highly recommend a yoga retreat! It’s a game changer. If you have any questions please don’t hesitate to get in touch. xx PS I actually went on a mini day yoga retreat yesterday here in nz – will write about it soon! 🌸🌸🌸

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  3. So happy to read this and I love, LOVE your photos. It’s where my daughter lived and whilst I’ve only been there vicariously through her, I love to see Wellington as beautiful as this .

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    • Hello lovely, thanks so much for popping by! Maybe one day we’ll do coffee in Welly together, we never know.
      How are you, keeping warm I trust (although I’m sure you’re happy to now officially be in spring) πŸŒΈπŸŒΏπŸ”†πŸ¦‹


      • Erm…nothing spring-like around here. Snowing constantly right now. One day I’d love to visit Welly. I’ve a great friend in Upper Hutton and YOU now! Haha


    • Thank you for your message and taking a moment out of your weekend to read my little blog. Clarity, that is a great word. A gigantic leap forward from the unclear old boozy me. Hope you are well, enjoy your weekend my friend πŸ”†πŸŒΏπŸŒΈπŸŒΊ

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      • It is gigantic! I am happy for you. And a tiny bit jealous for me because I feel I don’t have that. I also know I have to quit sugar to get there so…. it is all logical; I can not eat chocolate in order not to feel and then complain about not being clear. Ha! That is not how it works. πŸ™‚
        Greatings from the other side the world.
        xx, Feeling

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