It’s 7am Saturday morning as I write to you from Whangamata, New Zealand with a coffee in hand. It’s a delicious 21*C which is pretty warm for us Kiwis. We said goodbye to summer and hello to autumn on 1 March (two days ago) – the opposite seasons to our friends in the northern hemisphere.
This post is long overdue, I’ve been so slack. As we reflect back across 2017, I was an active member of this wonderful sober blogosphere. We shared stories of our struggles, our triumphs and our alcoholfree journeys. Wasn’t it a blast! Your insights and encouragement was more profound that I expected from a social media platform. You rock! ❤️😘🔆
Some of you noticed my absence and kindly asked if everything was okay. Let’s be honest, you thought I’d gone back to the booze – a fair assumption to make given our regular interactions last year. I’m pleased to confirm that this definitely wasn’t the case. I guess I just… found life and started playing outdoors. So I apologize for any angst or worry I may have accidentally caused. This was not my intention – I am sorry.
2018 has kicked off in leaps and bounds.
- Firstly, I welcomed the year in at an 8-day New Year yoga retreat in Bali, Indonesia. This was my one year soberversary gift to self, you can read about it here. I’m now booked into my next yoga retreat and can’t wait! This might sound over the top and like an unnecessary luxury. And you might be right. But when we reflect back on how much money we wasted on booze, the cost of a week away is MORE THAN COVERED by the money I would have been spending on alcohol. Believe me, my little Nomo sobriety tracker tells me how much I haven’t spent on booze since I quit on 01 Jan 2017… it’s horrifying.
- Secondly, I got into gardening. I am learning about the therapeutic power of nature and being outdoors – this cannot be underestimated. Rather than boozing my weekends away, I have transformed our unprivate, uninviting front yard into a private outdoor yoga abyss. Well, almost! It’s amazing what 1.8m high fences can do for one’s sense of calm and some friendly plants. I’m still learning how to get the lawn to be more like a bowling green but in the meantime, I regularly practice yoga in my garden oasis now. It makes me very happy.
- Thirdly, I regularly spend quality time with friends and family. Not the toxic ones, they are now arms length in my life now. I’m still learning about setting boundaries with those ones and trying to let their dramas not affect me. On a happier note, coffee dates, brunch dates, two hour walking dates are where is at for me now … it’s all happening!
How’s your year going? What’s working well and what could we do to support you along the way? Would love to hear from you. It seems 2018 is fast becoming a very positive and rewarding year for many.
In sum, the year is going well. Sure, there are the trying times – I have no delusions about this. We can’t control other people’s behavior or situations but we CAN control how we chose to respond. We can choose to be happy or choose to be like the little girl under the umbrella, walking around with a storm could over her head and every one else is in the sunshine. I pick the former.
Today is day 426 without alcohol. Every day is a gift to respect and not take for granted. Giving up drinking was by far THE BEST LIFE CHOICE I have ever made. So if you’re considering quitting drinking, just do it. We are here to support and offer a hand if you want it. I say go for gold. You’re worth it. xxx
Ps I took the following photos on my Thursday morning walk. It’s so nice to be out and about early, before the traffic starts. This is Lyall Bay, in Wellington, New Zealand. 🌿🦋🌸🔆