Last year as part of giving up drinking, I started a daily gratitude journal practice. Nothing earth shattering, just 5-10 minutes each morning, one page of three things I’m grateful for. While it sounds inconsequential, I genuinely believe it’s helped change me from being a ‘glass half empty’ person to a ‘glass half full’ person.
This morning’s page made me wonder about what I was up to one year ago. Then I got a notice from our WordPress buddies, letting me know it’s one year – ONE YEAR!!! – since I kicked off NoWineImFine and joined your amazing sober blogging community. How cool is that!?! Time flies!
Gosh, things have changed so much in the past year – where do we start? I’m keen to keep this brief so here goes.
One year ago was 16 March 2017. This meant I was 2.5 months into my alcohol free journey (last drink was New Years Eve, 2016). Wow, I was such a delicate little flower a year ago! Drinking was my identity, it’s what we did to relax / unwind / celebrate / socialise etc etc etc. This meant that with only 2.5 months of being alcohol free under my belt, I was feeling very lost and very unsure how to do all of the activities above but without booze.
A quick recap of what’s changed massively since then and now:
- I know who my real friends are. And, I’ve made some amazing new ones. My tribe has totally reformulated itself, for the better. Gone are the ‘barstool buddies’; the toxic folks that weren’t actually friends. These were the people who just wanted people around them to drink hard with.
- My self confidence has flourished. I know what I want from myself, my career and what I need to do on a daily basis to continue to nourish myself so that I can serve others more richly. Daily practices such as yoga, meditation, journaling and chia seeds are critical and making excuses why I cannot fit these into my day is not an option.
- Decisions are guided by healthy life choices. I confidently say no to parties now whereas a year ago I was so weak. I hated it when people drilled me about why I wasn’t drinking, saying ‘it’s just a fad’ and all the usual bullshit. I now realize it says more about their own insecurities and drinking problems than it does about me.
- Danger zones are a no go zone. Pubs, bars and similar venues where we regularly got pissed are no go zones for me now. Let’s be realistic – going back into the old stomping grounds is playing with fire in my opinion. These days, I keep myself away from situations where I could be tempted and catch up with friends in different contexts now.
I hope that sharing my experiences over the last year has somehow helped someone in some small way. Knowing that we aren’t alone in this massive, life changing journey has been hugely comforting. New Zealand has a huge binge drinking culture so your blogs, inspiration and ideas have been instrumental. So thank you.
May the year ahead be even more prosperous than the last!
Hugs and hugs from NoWineImFine ❤️🌸🌺
PS these photos are from outdoor yoga classes I do during the summer. It’s something that brings me much happiness, friendship and positive mental and physical challenge. New Zealand summer = Dec to Feb 🙂