Social media addiction – the benefits of quitting Facebook

In 2019, I was a semi-regular Facebook user. But in October, I was over it! So I threw the towel in and haven’t looked back since.

Peoples’ reactions were interesting. They asked me flakey, indirect questions like ‘We haven’t seen you post anything on Facebook lately, is everything ok?’ and ‘We didn’t see any of your holiday photos on Facebook, is something wrong?’. There was so much peer pressure to be a Facebook follower!

The answers are yes, everything is ok and no, nothing is wrong. I ditched Facey for several reasons, which I’ll share with you here.

  • Firstly, I stumbled across Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport. This is a great book that gets behind the scenes of social media addiction. I was particularly fascinated by Facebook’s methods of drawing us in and learning gritty alternatives to mindless scrolling. 9/10.
  • I don’t need to know what people had for dinner, memes, or their political views. Seriously, I just don’t.
  • Facebook ‘friends’ aren’t all necessarily my friends. In fact, many are acquaintances that I’d rather cull from my friends list. But if I did that, it would cause all kinds of drama and hyper-inflated offense that I can’t be bothered dealing with.
  • I think some people post things in a quest for attention and pretend to try and be something they are not. Sure, it’s lovely to see true friends’ happy moments. But authenticity on Facebook in my view is fleeting.
  • I’d rather spend x hours/ week doing real stuff rather than mindless scrolling, sending pointless ‘likes’ and meaningless comments on people’s posts like ‘Congratulations!’. As a result, I meditate and do a lot more exercise which is in part due to Covid-19 lockdown here in New Zealand.

You might think I sound bitter and twisted about Facebook and maybe you’re right. But since quitting, life has been even better than it was with Facebook. You see, I make a conscious effort to connect with friends and family now. Rather than half-assed comments via Facebook, we speak on the phone and catch up human to human. I LOVE hearing from them, first hand, about what they have been up to. We share ideas, laugh and drink coffee together. Even if our catch ups these days are virtual. I love seeing their joy, supporting them through their worries, celebrating their passions and seeing come alive in human to human dialogue. Sure, they might have posted their life events on Facebook. But I haven’t seen any of it – this enables people to become animated and full of expression when they can share their experiences first-hand.

Another great thing about being Facey-free is that I’m free of THOSE people. You know, the small few that are a Facebook ‘friend’ but aren’t actually your friend? I’m also free of a toxic stalker (sadly, she has a severe drug and alcohol problem). But that’s another story.

In closing, freeing myself of Facebook has had nothing but positive effects on my productivity, my mental well-being and relationships. I used to care about how many ‘likes’ my photos got which caused angst – just read Digital Minimalism and you’ll see it’s a real thing. I was also able to let go of the people were were not real friends in a dignified way. My garden and house plant propagation projects are getting the dedicated focus to enable them to thrive. So are my relationships with my friends, my family, my hobbies, meditation practice, F45 and most importantly, my mental wellbeing.

Amidst Covid, being off Facebook has helped me to improve my connection with people I love in an authentic way.

In closing, if you’re thinking about the value Facebook genuinely brings to your life, consider reading Digital Minimalism as a start. You don’t have to go ‘all or nothing’ like I did with Facey, but something small like deleting the app from your phone is a great start.

Whatever you decide to do, only YOU will know if your social media use is adding positivity or negativity to your health and well-being.

Wishing you and yours all the very best – stay safe and well.

Speak soon 😘

16 thoughts on “Social media addiction – the benefits of quitting Facebook

  1. Great post! After reading Digital Minimalism last year, I also ditched Facebook, never looked back. While some aspects of Facebook do help us stay connected, I much prefer interacting with people in real life now, much more meaningful than just “liking” a post. It’s great!

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  2. This is just what I needed to read today–I quit Facebook a week ago (well, I just haven’t logged in for a week), and so many good things have already come from it. I will definitely check out that book that you mentioned in your post. Thanks for sharing–it’s encouraging to know that there IS life without Facebook!

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    • Thank you for your lovely message, I am so pleased for you! What would the most beneficial thing be, in your experience this week without Facebook? For me, I feel like a huge weight is lifted off my shoulders… almost a sense of freedom! Might sound ridiculous but it’s almost like spring cleaning and getting rid of unnecessary clutter. I don’t have Instagram either.
      Please keep in touch, I’d love to hear how your Facey-free journey is going. Onwards and upwards for us both ☺️

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      • I feel the same, that a weight has been lifted…but also, I feel less noise and more ownership of my thoughts and feelings. I love it, and so far, so good, no temptation to go back as of yet!

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  3. Yes, absolutely yes, to all of the above. I have family all over the globe so I remain a Facey, however, after deleting and re-instating my account numerous times, I now have only true friends and family. And when I post something- it’s for me…. things I’d like to save. Kind of like a digital diary. I’ve heard Digital Minimalism is a great read. So wonderful to see you, NWIF! How are you all getting along in beautiful NZ? Hopes and prayers that you’re all healthy and happy.❤️🙏😘

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    • Hi lovely, thanks for your message. What a great approach, I love it! Isn’t it frustrating that you had to re-instate your account numerous times. Did you find people kept sending you friend requests that weren’t true family and friends? If you have a solution for this, I’d love to learn about it. 😊
      New Zealand Covid-19 is in full lockdown, week four. It’s been worth it, I think we’ve only had 1,800 cases with 2/3 recovered and 9 deaths (sadly, all elderly). We are on the road to full eradication but not out of the woods yet!
      How is the covid situation for you and your family? Sending love xx

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      • So sorry I never replied NWIF….. I’ve been on a computer at work for 2 months now and can’t bear to sit in front of any screen when I get home! Hope all is good for you- we are cautiously re-opening from lockdown but it’s so scary. Been having a rough time mentally and emotionally but still sober, thank God! No desire really because I know there’s not enough wine in the world to satisfy my anxiety, etc, etc. I’m one month away from 3 years!! Lots of love to you and see you next time.💜

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